Show of hands: Who feels put together and has everything figured out?
We have a feeling not many people have their hands raised (and neither do we!)
To be honest, some days we're feeling good and like we're moving in the right direction. And then some days, well not so much. So on the off days, how do we manage these feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, and shame?
What we've found is that when we experience these feelings, it's the perfect time to slow down and remind ourselves (literally we say it out loud):
You are smart. You are creative. You are successful. You are the only one with the power to solve your problems.
It's taken us a long time to honestly believe these statements but they are true of all of us! It helps us to make the conscious decision to pause, breathe, slow down, tap in, and focus on what is truly important. In other words, we prioritize by asking ourselves: what’s the most important? Who or what needs to be addressed first? What can be placed on the back burner?
Sometimes, what's truly important is deciding to take a vacation day (or two, or five) to make sure we're aligned with our life goals, take time to rest, and give undivided attention to ourselves and our loved ones.
And sometimes, it's giving ourselves the permission to order pizza instead of making a healthy dinner with that $6 local organic broccoli that's getting to the end of its shelf life in our crisper drawer. Or it’s deciding to rotate our free karma classes instead of creating another free class when our plates are already full. (Not hypothetical scenarios - true stories from last week!)
Anyway, the point is that YOU are the only one that knows if you need a week of self-reflection, some time to reconfigure your own expectations of yourself, or to just order a pizza for dinner. And sometimes it’s all of the above!
Ming-Wai and Ming-Cee
P.S. Don’t be surprised if you catch yourself saying out loud: “You are smarter than your problems.” Trust us, even our kids are hearing it on the regular now. Because it’s TRUE!