The relationship that we have with ourselves is the only one that really matters because the harsh truth is that you can’t break up with yourself.
We are all stuck with ourselves so in order to enjoy our lives, we have to know and love who we are.
It might seem like a “duh” thing to say, but then why do we struggle with it so much? Some may be lucky enough to have always enjoyed their own company, having the charming ability to laugh at themselves and naturally cheer themselves on. But if you’re like us, it hasn’t always been easy.
The work we are putting in is exactly what is giving us the time, space, and grace to get to know ourselves, and ultimately, fall deeply in love. To start, it was a complicated process because we’re not exactly sure when we became so disconnected from our true self. But as we continue on this journey, we are realizing that everything gets better the deeper we connect with ourselves (more on that later).
For us, the catalyst was a long enough pause to realize that we couldn’t hear our own true voices anymore. It even took us a while to recognize our negative reels since we had been sh!t talking ourselves for so long. It was hard to convince ourselves that the daily decisions we were making were not in our best interest. [But of course they were...weren’t they?]
When we discuss our first steps of going within, what we are doing is starting to develop a relationship with ourselves again. Asking ourselves what is it that we want?
What DO I want?
In a partner?
And truthfully, most of the time our answers were: “I DON’T KNOW!!!!”
But that’s exactly where the stuckness lies.
How can we help ourselves if we don’t know what we need? How do we make decisions to move in certain directions that will lead us where we want to go?
The uncomfortable feeling of going within takes courage, honesty, patience, and love, just like any other relationship you spend time cultivating. You will fight, embarrass yourself, and say things you don’t mean, but since breaking up isn’t an option, you have to find a way to forgive, move on, tease and laugh, and enjoy your own company again.
To learn to love yourself again (or for the first time) is not easy...at all. But we have both been there and know what helps. And if you love the idea of going on a date with yourself, then come to one of our classes. In July, we’re featuring Yoga for Tension Release on Wednesdays at 8pm eastern as our free karma class.
We are here to help.
Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee