What do I want to change in my life?
This may be a simple question for some, but generally it’s very difficult to answer. We believe that most of us are terrified of change since deep down we know how difficult it is to get there. So instead, we just keep talking about how we wish things were different.
Talking about what we want to change is the easy part. But in order for real change to happen, we need to ask ourselves a much harder follow-up question:
Am I ready to put in the effort to make this change a reality?
This is where it gets uncomfortable - and understandably so! We must get to a point where the discomfort of change is worth more than suffering the status quo.
And that looks different for everyone depending on where we want to make that next change. What may seem like an easy decision in one aspect of our lives, could seem nearly impossible in another. Some may be willing to wake up early for a 5am workout, but may not be willing to give up their 5pm cocktails.
So taking the time to really unpack and discover what needs to change in our life is the only way to take the first steps towards healing our discomfort, pain and suffering.
And if you discover that you are not ready for change, then we suggest you don’t! If you're not willing to put in the time, then we suggest you continue doing the crime.
The female author George Eliot (it’s a pen name!) writes "It's never too late to be who you were meant to be." It’s okay if you’re not ready because that's part of the complexity of the healing journey. Give yourself grace to find the right time for you.
Generally, it’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us frozen. We won’t be able to move forward until we recognize and address that fear. Until then, we will be stuck in a cycle where our actions will be short-lived or half-assed without real dedication and lacking grit.
So when you are ready to put in the time, we are here to help you..
For most of us, our first step is just figuring out how to pause long enough and quiet things down to ask ourselves: “am I really ready to change?” If so, how do I get there? And If not, what is it that is keeping me stuck?
At ming+ming we offer that pause. We provide a quiet and supportive space to ask the hard questions and to answer them honestly. You can come to us and join our group classes or we can come to you for 1-on-1 coaching sessions. We are here to support you when you’re ready to invest in yourself so you can start enjoying this life you work so hard to create.