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step one

It wasn’t that long ago that we both felt confused, frustrated, stuck, and uncertain about our lives.

These emotions made us feel like we had little control, which kept us stuck in our patterns, feeding our old habits, waiting for something to change and break us from our perpetual cycle of wishing things were different.

The complexity of the situation was highlighted when we would pause long enough to evaluate why we felt these negative emotions. On paper, our lives were comfortable, accomplished, and blessed. We had accomplished what was expected of us and achieved the lifestyle that we strategically planned our entire lives. We were supposed to be enjoying everything we had worked so hard to create, but we weren’t enjoying our lives. There was a part of us that felt guilty, confused, and ashamed.

Luckily, through coincidence and timing, we were able to support one another through this confusing time and connect over the fact that we were both struggling, albeit in different realms.

And though our struggles were different, we knew we were both searching to understand. To understand how we got ourselves here. To understand our emotions and behaviors. To understand how to help ourselves. To understand where to invest our time and money.

What we discovered on our own healing journeys is that when we face the root cause of our issues–our stuckness- then we can start to understand the process of healing and creating sustainable changes in our lives.

The first step for both of our healing journeys was to go inside. We had to rediscover our worthiness and figure out how to truly believe that we have the power to heal ourselves AND that we deserved to be healed.

That is why step one in the ming+ming 11-step process to get unstuck, is the negative reel.

Our negative reel is our shit-talking voice. Noticing what that negative reel says and how it's said on a regular basis is the foundation to all the other steps we will take on our healing journeys.

We know firsthand that the negative reel is destructive and sneaky. It impacts our lives and affects most of our daily decisions with a familiar voice. We were both naïve to its powers until we learned how to identify it and quiet it down.

Now we know how to coach ourselves through life, cheer ourselves on with love and compassion, and give ourselves grace for when we mess up and fall off our wagons. We now know how to use our tools to quiet our negative reel quicker when it decides to pop back up again.

This crucial first step has helped us move forward in making decisions and creating actionable change with more ease and confidence. It has been the catalyst in developing trust in our natural abilities and it's the building blocks to developing deeper and stronger self-love. It has given us the confidence to be creative with our solutions and continue to help ourselves change and grow in line with our core values.

At ming+ming, we’re here to help you when you’re feeling stuck and overwhelmed by first identifying and quieting down your negative reel. Discover your next steps with us by continuing to follow along. We will be highlighting our 11-step process starting with that pesky negative reel in February.

With love,

Ming-Wai + Ming-Cee

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